This is a topic that we can cover time and time again, and I have. Being a bridesmaid can often come with drama, hurt feelings and above all else, expenses that are far beyond the means of a twenty or thirty year old. And that, my friends, is what we are discussing today. Money! What is the realistic expected cost of being a bridesmaid and why is a nightmare of a bride expecting you to spend your life savings just because she is getting married?
The typical responsibility of the bridesmaids include things like a dress for the wedding, throwing a shower and providing a gift for that shower, which should be a joint gift between all of the bridesmaids and possibly a bachelorette party, if you have a fun bride. An extra expense might also include hair and make-up on the day of the wedding. Now let’s break this down:
The reality is that being liked by your friends can be very expensive! Being a bridesmaid comes with certain expectations that, unfortunately, are what they are. They come with the territory. You can estimate that every time you stand in a wedding, you may spend an average of $400 - $500 and that is just if the wedding is in town AND IF you have a reasonable bride that sticks to a lower priced dress for the bridesmaids. When you think about $500, it might not seem too bad, but when you think about having 3 friends get married in the same year, now you’re spending $1500 on weddings, AT LEAST!
In my late thirty’s, I am always up for a trip be it a wedding, a bachelorette party or anything really. But in my twenty’s and early thirty’s, there’s no way I could have afforded to be in 4 weddings in the same year, in particular with the expectations of the brides that I see. Good thing I am just the planner, but for those of you not being paid to be a part of these weddings, you should just be honest with yourself and your friend. In the end, attending the wedding and still loving your good friend is better than pretending you can afford to be in it and hating her by the time the wedding day comes!